If i am to see both i would either
1 - want pr for the other child too (i would simply need this if i am to be her father on the same level)
2 - if not withdraw
1 - if i am to have both children then i would need pr for both
2 - if not then i only want to see my child
honest answer im more bothered about my daughter so if pushed happy to withdraw non biological
no im not
reason is she excludes me from evrything surely a father should have pr, stops her getting my daughter adopted , access to medical records , school reports etc ?
i assume if i withdraw my application in respect of my non boilogical child whilst the court may not like this, it doesnt mean i am withdrawing my application to see my biological daughter ?
my biological is 1
the other 8
as in live we were "together" on and off 4 years
i stayed at the mothers approx 50 % of that time
i have my own house and was not registered as living at mothers house
not officially my clothes etc were all at my house she used to go mental regually and burn my clothes or throw them away so kept them at my house sounds crazy but thats how it was
maybe shes trying to say i wasnt there who knows the caf cass guy does not doubt i was though
option 2 then i think withdraw im sure i will get to see her anyway if thats what mum wants keep it simple ?
the reason is i am not the other childs dad, i am a "special friend" if i am to look after her on the same level eg alt weekends and a day or two in the week i dont have her then i think i would need pr if i am going to be her "dad"
also she is in contact with her real dad all be it sparadically and if my ex starts another relationship she will then have 3 dads my intention was to see the other child "occasionally"
the ex i has turned up near my workplace twice now and i think she has started seeing the man in the garage next door to where i work , she turns up with my daughter surely this if anything is a little thoughtless
the caf cass officer is concerned with her mental health and to be honest i now think i am going to change my application to full residency i assume if i dont get that contact will still take place
then i assume i could apply for the daughter to live with me and her mother to see her alt weekends , and as you say with draw contact for the other daughter the mother has allready told me "a court order is not worth the paper its written on" i have that saved, i believe rightly or wrongly mothers are rarely punished (and if so it takes a long time) so i think why wait for her to come round its not going to happen unless a judge puts a hammer down
i consistently pushed relationship guidence councilling as an alternative , mediation refused twice, letters not replied to all backed up with copies , i passed a alchahol drugs analysis , i have a job, money , stable , my thoughts are tell the caf cass officer i have now lost hope, and belive she will continue to be obstructive, wether i am with her or not her temper will continue , im not the other childs dad i am richard, its not in the other childs interests to have 3 dads and if the mother does want me to see her then i will anyway a court order is not necessary , i have taken a loan out and saving the money for a solictor as a last option
i also belive there is assistence available for child care for working parents so do not see this as a problem
and i do care i want to bring my daughter up my resolve has never been stronger
ok , just to add i saw the ex out sat night was stood at the bar turned arround and there she was
we had a short conversation and it started to not go well so left it then her friend passed out on the dance floor, ambulance took her away (her friend) i then went home the ex went home do i ned to tell the caf cass man this
supposed to call him today
saturday the exs mum asked me to pick her up as she was in trouble (text) i agreed was worried about kids
found them realised no kids, agreed to drive them home
on dropping them off a man ran out of the exs house tried to assault me and vandalised my car
police came i am pressing charges
more !! the ex then rings me saying she cant cope with kids and texts saying pick them up
i say no will in the morning, anyway i rang the police again said i was concerned and after what had heppened can they check everything is ok
they late called back saying the kids were asleep and no concerns
i have reported to sservices police and will caff cass tommorow
my question is whilts there is no such a thing as custody do i have grounds now to change my application to custody or what the equivelent may be
the third hearing is 24 feb
currently a section 7 report is being compiled