I have had access to bring my daughter to scotland for holidays for 2 weeks at a time in school holidays and i phone her twice a week. I am happy for my daughter to stay with her mother until she dies and for the funeral and then I want her to come and live with me and my wife. Her grandmother is 68 and not in the best of health herself and i really do believe that my daughter will be much better off with me. I do not get on with the grandmother , she has told me that if my daughter stays with her she will only let me visit 4 weekends a year. This is a big step back as far as access goes. If my daughter comes to live me me I will take my daughter to visit her and allow her to come and visit as often as she likes. If there is no legal reason why I can't have her then I need to know what is the best way to go about it.
Yes, she would like m daughter to stay with her mother, but I really believe it is not in my daughters best interest. It would not be long before she became a carer for her grandmother.
No I do not intend to attend the funeral as the grandmother would not want me there. I am quite happy for my daughter to stay with the grandmother until after the funeral. I am trying to do whats best for my daughter causing the least amount of upset.