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Hello,
My divorce was brought forward as my wife claimed that I was leaving the country. As I represent myself and suffer from depression caused by the action of my wife my ability to deal with the matter in this accelerated time frame is limited. I have in the period since the last court date moved home with all the stress and trouble that causes. Can I ask the court for more time to prepare? The court papers say that the case is in 'The Warned List'. What does that mean?
Submitted: 1 year ago.
Category: Family Law
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Expert:  Clare replied 1 year ago.
Hi
Thank you for your question.
My name is ***** *****
I will do my best to help you but I need some further information first.
Who has actually applied for what - what is the nature of the hearing?
Clare
Customer: replied 1 year ago.

We had a First Appointment hearing called by my wife. Its four years since the nisi was obtained and she has failed to agree a fair financial settlement having run me into debt on credit cards. Late last year I asked her to proceed the case as I am the respondent (because she was previously able to get legal aid). At that time she refused saying she was happy to let it stay as it was. She has been living in the matrimonial home for all this time and refuses to agree to its sale. I have not pushed for a settlement to allow the children to finish formal education.

Because of a casual comment I made on facebook about wanting to work abroad this year she and her solicitor approached the court for an emergency hearing which was granted without any reference to me. This has therefore condensed the time frame and put extreme pressure on me to complete the required paperwork in the time allowed, especially as I am representing myself.

I have to supply a completed form E

A concise statement of the issues between the other party and me, a chronology and a questionnaire of other information and a form G.

This is all for the financial settlement.

We have been married for 30 years. She sought an end to the marriage 5 years ago citing my unreasonable behavior. Most of what she alleges is fabricated. As she had no grounds on which to seek a divorce she had to engineer some and so provoked a physical fight between us. She however had committed adultery and has been co-inhabiting in the former matrimonial home with her new partner for at least the last four years.

She is seeking that I relinquish any claim to the matrimonial home, that she has some portion of my pension and that I retain 100% of the debts that she ran up on my credit card accounts for which she had a spouse card and was therefore jointly responsible for creating.

I have been to three separate programmes of mediation to try and resolve the issue of the credit card debts and find a fair way forward. All have failed because of her refusal to accept responsibility for half the credit card debts.

I believe that it is unfair that she can accelerate the court process now after she has refused to do anything realistic for the last four years.

I hope this further information helps.

I don't know how best to respond to this court sanctioned bullying.

Expert:  Clare replied 1 year ago.
Hi
When does the Form E have to be completed and when is the first hearing?
Clare
Customer: replied 1 year ago.

The form E has to be completed in the next few days. The next hearing is set for the 17th February.

We can exchange questionnaires required by the 23rd January.

Its a nightmare!

Expert:  Clare replied 1 year ago.
Hi
When did you get notification of the timetable?
Clare
Customer: replied 1 year ago.

The court date was the 14th November with the follow up letter setting it out on the 25th November. I was about to move home when the court hearing happened and told the judge that. What with moving, additional work caused by Christmas, I'm a care worker, and the impact this all has on my depression I have not acted on it as quickly as I should have. December has the anniversary of my wedding, my father's death and the end of our marriage and me leaving the family home so it is a difficult month.

Expert:  Clare replied 1 year ago.
Hi
May I ask what makes you think that this is an expedited timetable given that you have been given nine weeks to complete the form E?
Clare
Customer: replied 1 year ago.

Because normally there would be an extended period before the date of the first hearing to prepare things. She has, after all dragged this out for 4 years. The last time I asked her to bring it to court she said that she wouldn't.

Its not really the timescale that is the issue but what needs to be done to try and keep some fairness in this matter. I don't have experience of divorce proceedings which seem very different from what applies in other courts.

What will happen next?

Expert:  Clare replied 1 year ago.
Hi
Just to check - are you saying that there was a hearing in November which you attended?
Clare
Customer: replied 1 year ago.

Yes.

She attended with her solicitor and I represented myself. I had less than a weeks notice.

Expert:  Clare replied 1 year ago.
Hi
But all that happened was that directions were given for the filing of the Form E?
Clare
Customer: replied 1 year ago.

Hello,

Yes there was that direction and a direction for the exchange of questionnaires and responses by tomorrow and the next court date by the 17th of this month. As I represented myself in the court the judge also told my wife's solicitor to help with the process, short of advising me of course. Such help would have been to send me their completed form E as early as possible but instead they sent after I had submitted mine. I asked the court office for a few extra days and that was agreed. Once I got the completed form E, I realised that this is too big and too complex a task for me to do and I have therefore been seeking to engage a solicitor. I was due to travel the 80 miles this morning to see a solicitor but she has gone sick today.

Can I ask the court for more time and how would I do so?

Many thanks.

***** *****.

Expert:  Clare replied 1 year ago.
Hi
For clarity - you have both filed your Forms E - but you have not done your Questionnaire - is that correct?
Clare
Customer: replied 1 year ago.

Her side has filed the form E and now sent me a Questionnaire.

I submitted an incomplete and unsigned form E as I felt I had to submit something to the court.

Really, my paperwork needs to be done and I have realised that given the difficulty of the task I an going to need a solicitor in court to help me. I was supposed to see one today but she called in sick.

Expert:  Clare replied 1 year ago.
Hi
May I ask why you did not see a solicitor sooner?
What difficulty did you find with the Form E?
Clare
Customer: replied 1 year ago.

I have seen solicitors in the past and yet the matter has not been resolved. Partly because of my depression and Margot due to my estranged wife's refusal to agree a fair settlement. She ran me £25k into debt and damaged my chances of earning the sort of income I used to. I now have a full time, demanding job which is paid at the minimum wage. I'm reluctant to get any deeper in debt. It will take me the rest of my life to pay off what I already owe.

Sadly, justice is a rich person's privilege in this country.

The form E was just too detailed and demanding. I realise now that I was subjected to emotional and financial abuse in the marriage and that abuse has continued since the seperation.

It has been a challenging 5 years with not just this nasty divorce to deal with. I have also had redundancy and unemployment and now a job well below my capabilities and pay grade. She has loosened the children who are now young adults so that they ignore me. I've lost my home and my identity. In addition to that and the loss of my job I also broke my thigh bone badly, lost my younger brother to suicide brought on by his own divorce and had to relocate and deal with everything basically on my own. I have sought out professional advice and support but its not the same as family support. All in all I have had a fair bit to deal with and depression is not an easy thing for me to address. I regret to say that I also have little faith in the divorce courts treating me, or any other husband fairly and all that is going to happen is I'll be in even more debt for the rest of my life. I have hoped in vain that my wife will just do the decent thing and agree to help pay off the debts she helped run up. Its as simple as that really.

Expert:  Clare replied 1 year ago.
Hi
Since the matter cannot go forward without your paperwork you will be given extra time - but it will be a matter of a few weeks and I am afraid that you are likely to face an Order that you pay the costs of today
You have in fact had the standard amount of time given to prepare a Form E - but I do appreciate that your depression has made things more difficult - a letter from your doctor may assist there
With regard to the form E try printing it out and then doing just two pages a day - if all you do is concentrate on those two pages you will find that it does not seem as overwhelming
Please ask if you need further details
Clare

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