Can I also ask. When our children are with their father during allocated weekends/school holidays he delegates care of our two children to other family members i.e. uncle and paternal grandparents. Am I within my rights to insist if their father is not with them during this time they should remain with me? Is access purely for father or does this include other family members? The reason I ask that uncle so wealthy spends so much on my children it makes me feel so unadequte when they get all these expense toys - I feel it undermines me as a mother and feel I need to reign this in.
When kids have been with uncle (during fathers access time) - Uncle has at times left my children with others (his friends and not family members) when something has "cropped up". The reason I know because kids have told me - Uncle does not volunteer/mention these incidents (nothing sinister but he is very busy person). Can I put restrictions on what uncle can do? i.e when he is with kids he is only to be with kids with family only and not others? Is this reasonable?
Thank you for last answer that really answered what I was trying to get at. Is there anything I can do to instill in father that access to children are really there for his benefit instead of leaving with his family because he has other commitments? He has another family now but kids only get very small amount of time with him (that is fathers choice and its always been that way before new family).
Thanks so much - advice is good info for me to start sorting this situation out.