I have contacted the schools yesterday and asked for an update. The school my eldest son is in has serious concerns. He has not been at school for over a week and they are suggesting home study. However, I am against this as I don't really see the benefit to it at all. My wife has no interest in his education and my view is that he simply will do nothing all day.
The kids have been under social services 12 months back, but case was closed. How do I address the situation with social services. Phone calls simply seem to go on deaf ears. Can this be put in writing?
Fear my actions especially with the way she deals with it.
Hi Clare. Between 60 - 80% attendance. She threw them all out last Thursday and fear of repercussions she took them back on Sunday. I could take them on as full time care. My current partner is a school teacher, local schools etc could be done and I earn a good salary. No real issues here.
They came to my house and we took care of them. She simply put them in a taxi and sent them on a 30 mile trip.
Two of them would jump at it. Concern would be they do not want to change schools. If they moved to me they would need to move schools due to distance.
Yes they asked if I could take care of them I said yes. They highlighted their concerns and my wifes illness. They offered support and said I should be available to assist where needed.
She has thrown the 16 year old out at least 10 times in the last 12 months. She has abandoned the others about 4 times in the same period. Other concern is that she leaves them home alone on several occasions in the care of the 12 year old or 16 year old. Police don't seem bothered by this; however, it has massive impact on the 16 year old. She drags him into her relationship issues and constant care of the other children; however, he has big issues himself to deal with.
She has thrown the 16 year old out today and agreed with the school that he should have home study. Last year of school. She sent him to me and expects me to pick up the pieces. I am happy to take him in and support him; however, when she feels like she wants to take him back for her reasons she does highlighting she is legal guardian to him. Is this relevant can I become his legal guardian and if so how do I do this. This may be a step in the right direction. Concern she continues to make all decisions for him without my say. Hope that makes sense?
Yes father to all children been separated for 3 years.
Thanks for your reply. Just to confirm, can I do anything to make the 16 year old my responsibility to prevent his mother currently controlling him etc. Also would you suggest I formally write to social services with my concern on the other children? Finally, I suppose it would be beneficial for me to get a solicitor to act on my behalf as I would not know where to start with a child application order?