I had emailed him to say that if he went Monday-Monday then as I would lose my entire weekend and he is only losing 1\2 of his weekend when I am on holiday then he could still have the girls for his weekend but pick them up from me at 3pm on the Friday (really I would prefer Saturday morning but I thought it was unfair for them to miss out on the first night of the festival) so he could still go camping on the bank holiday weekend rather than 9am as he wants. I also said they should be back by 5pm rather than 7pm on the Sunday. The girls are always exhausted when they come back from him and although it is a bank holiday the next day they are going back to school that week and need to make sure they start getting back into their routine. Equally, my eldest is starting secondary school that week and will be worried about it. A later night on the Sunday isn't really what is best for her.
Its not easy to swap weekends as it means one of us then loses out with the girls for 2 weekends in a row which is why in the past the holidays have been Saturday to Saturday and going on that persons weekend so it only impacts the other parent for half their weekend not losing out on their entire weekend. However I guess this year it might have to be different.
The only other weekend that fits would be the 31st July to 2nd August that is his weekend but then I could have the girls for that weekend instead of the weekend that he is taking them on holiday. The following weekend (7hy Aug) we go on holiday and then they come back half way through his weekend the following weekend (15th) I am trying to be fair to him but equally I don't want to lose my weekend with the girls:) Maybe that is an option to say that I will then have his weekend 31st July-2nd Aug and he can have what he has stated in his email? The problem I also have is that it always seems to be compromising and he never does:(
I don't know:) He has tried to contact the mediator we were using and she isn't returning his calls. He has said he will find a new one but hasn't. This has been going on since September last year.
I did suggest last year that we didn't use a mediator and that we sat down together and planned the holidays for the entire year together but he said he wanted to go through mediation. He has said he will organise it and pay for it so I am not getting involved.
But can he just tell me he is going to take them away abroad without my consent? He is saying that he can take them out of the country 28 days a year without my consent but I thought he had to have my consent?
no but I have the children 11 out of 14 nights. There is a childcare arrangement document but no residence order.
That's what I thought. When I asked for my holiday back in October he gave his consent for me to take the girls abroad. I haven't given my consent for this holiday as yet therefore technically as we stand at the moment he can't take them - can he?
OK - thanks. I don't want to stop him taking the girls abroad for their holiday nor stop his fun with them. I just want to ensure everything is fair and that the compromising is not always on my side:)