My son has split from his wife last year after 5 years when they got into debt. When they first met she had a job but as soon as they moved in together she left her job and depended on him fully. She then got pregnant and they decided to get married and our grandson was born 5 years ago. From the beginning they used their credit cards and splashed out on expensive things and she kept getting fed up of everything and changing her furniture and house items around every few months and they had everything they needed but she was never satisfied. My son was trying to please her all the time and ended up working 60 hours a week to try and pay the bills. Eventually when he could no longer get any more credit and had difficulty paying their bills she left him and went back home to her parents with their son. She got her old job back with her fathers business but as soon as she met a new man she left work again and they moved in together to a flat with our grandson. My son had a nervous breakdown soon after the marriage break up but he managed to pull through and consolidate their debts. He sees his son every couple of weeks and is paying the correct amount of maintenance for his son as well as for another son he had previously with an ex-girlfriend. He dosent earn a great deal as he works in a warehouse. Some of her child benefits amounting to £700 were paid into their old bank account but she dident miss them for 4 months as she moved back home with her parents in the beginning and her family looked after her then and are quite wealthy. The bank have refused to give the money back when my son tried to get it for her as they owed alot of money to this previous bank account and my son had to open a new account with another bank after consolidating his debts so she is trying to say he owes her this money even though she should have changed the account details to her new bank but forgot about it when she dident need the money. His ex wife is now bribing him that he cannot see his son unless he gives her this £700 and her new boyfriend has threatened to beat him up.He has evidence that she is bribing him by a text she sent him. Please can you give me some advice what he should do.
Yes it was joint debts and it was my son who was the only one bringing in any wages to the home. Every debt she incurred during their marriage had to be paid by him. It seems to me that when she couldent get any more credit and they ran out of funds she left him.