It is quite complicated. My daughter has chronic pain syndrome and she was not diagnosed, the school didn't believe she was sick, they told social services who couldn't find evidence of abuse so they ,made it up. There were so many lies. Our children - all 3 of them - were put on a child protection plan, and then they said some parents at the inpatient unit my daughter was at said my husband used the word C*&T in front of the children (he didn't). We don't know if the hospital made this up or if the other parents made it up. Anyway, the social worker got very excited and called a professionals meeting which we weren't invited to to discuss the sexual abuse that he decided was going on, (it wasn't) and I called a lawyer who said I can't get legal aid, but if it was his kids he would be on the first plane out of the UK. So I put my children on a plane and we left the UK. They live in Portugal now. There is a port alert in place so if they come to the UK they could be taken away from me. I have to work in the UK because I can't find a job in Portugal. My husband can't work anymore because he was teaching and the social worker called the college. The social worker spoke to our friends, people in the village, people who hardly know us. More lies came out - I dont know if this was from the social worker, or my previous friends. They failed to follow process, they failed to provide accurate information and the result of their campaign based on nothing at all is that my children are separated from me and I have already lost one job because they heard about the child protection plan. I am a manager in the NHS. I hardly see my children - just 2 or 3 days every month. I want to clear my name and I want them to compensate my children who are so traumatised. Two of them have to see a psychiatrist, with PTSD and panic attacks.. My littlest is 4 and is coping the best. I want to get the school to give me all the information they have. They said they don't have to because it could harm my daughter. I wrote to the High Court to ask to force the school but they said I used the wrong form (part 8) and sent it back.
I was advised by someone on Mumsnet that he usually wins these cases. Actually it made sense. This is Wiltshire, a failing local authority with a desire to meet adoption targets. My youngest was 3. I knew that once they removed my children I would get legal aid, but they would then have my children least 3 days. I was pretty sure the Court would make them give my children back but I could not take the risk. One of my children was very sick, but the social worker didn't believe she was so they would not have taken care of her. The other was so little. My eldest would have been ok. But after telling the lawyer all of this he said he would leave as quickly as possible because they were on a witch hunt. I had lots of evidence to show that my daughter was genuinely sick but they wouldn't even look at it.
The initial referral came from them. I don't know why the initial referral was made. I believe that they made it up because they didn't want my daughter in the school because they didn't have a plan to cope with her wheelchair. They said that releasing the information would harm my daughter, and if they hadn't lied there is nothing that would harm my daughter. She is 13, and very sensible and aware of her own condition. The social services reaction was so out of proportion to the information I have seen that there has to be fabricated information. They didn't like that I said they were illegally excluding her from classes because they wouldnt let her attend classes and just dumped her in the library all day. They didn't believe that she had a medical plan which said she should attend school hours a day, even when the paediatrician himself told them so.
The solicitor was in Birmingham. The evidence would mean that I could provide proof of malicious intent in the initial referral, and provide proof against the lies that they told. I know no-one has ever done this before but I want my name cleared. Because I work in the NHS the accusations have followed me in each assignment and I have lost one contract because of them. My husband can't teach any more. My children are not interested in living in the UK any more due to their post traumatic stress disorder related to these accusations but they can't even come and visit me so we are separated more than we need to be. I want the port alert lifted so they can travel without fear. I also want them to clear the record so it doesn't ruin our future. The children have been in Portugal since 13 November 2013. They are now 18, 13 and 4. Which means I have 14 more years of worrying about this, until my littlest is 18. This is unbearable, seriously. Even taking out the emotion, it was wrong to do this. But what they cost us is so enormous, it is literally unbearable. We will never be okay again. We are all so traumatised.
My middle daughter - she is 13. She fell ill at 8, but was not correctly diagnosed until 2013. Also she has suspected interstitial cystitis which leads to blood in the urine but is not a childhood disease. So I can see why they thought of fabricated illness but I gave them evidence of her diagnoses. They didn't even open the file. They wouldn't even read it. My eldest has depression, linked to guilt because she wouldn't let herself enjoy her abled body while her sister was disabled. My littlest is fine.
Clare. No, because that doesn't cover personal information, only corporate information. I tried a subject access request which they declined, and then I asked the Information Commissioner to intervene but they said that they have no jurisdiction over academies, and they can decline to share if they feel that it will cause harm to my child to disclose. Frankly I think they would be hard put to argue in Court that disclosing the information would harm her more than isolating her from her schoolmates and jettisoning her in the library because they spent the disability budget on laptops, but maybe that's just my lack of objectivity.
Clare. Thank you!!!! I'm so used to being told that I can't, I can't, I can't that to have it confirmed that I can is wonderful. I will get on to that right away.
I will still need to know which Court to direct my application review to, and what form to use. I used part 8 form but it was sent back from the Court who said it was the wrong form.
Clare. I was told that FoI was only information so I went the Data Protection Act route. I have just sent the school a letter demanding the information under the FoI Act or an adequate justification it.
I'm not stupid or uneducated (which was considered more evidence of my guilt as a Munchausen Mummy, apparently) but I don't know what I am doing with this case.
Thanks kind words. I hate that mums like us have a hard time getting the right kind of treatment whether educational or medical children.
I have letters from a consultant paediatrician, a consultant nephrologist and two specialists in chronic pain. I can also get a report from my eldest daughter's previous psychiatrist if that would help. I could get reports from their current doctors to say there is no evidence of any abuse, but plenty of evidence of their conditions.
They said she was "damaged" due to emotional abuse which led to depression. she was subsequently diagnosed with Aspergers. There is no evidence to support any of those allegations. She was depressed but that's normal in a teenage sibling of a very sick child.
Social Services have closed the case because they can't get their hands on the children. But the port alert remains in place so if they come back they will be taken away from me.
They think that Xani became ill when she was bullied at school and then her best friend was run over by the school bus at the school and he died. It hit her very hard. She cried , and she still does 5 years later.
She was treated Disease at that time, then she got what we were told was ME, but after some years of trying to treat that she saw an ME specialist who diagnosed chronic pain syndrome.
Thank you so much continued interest. I realise this is not a quick and easy answer .
Clare. She gave an inconclusive result so she may have had Lymes and she was treated but her medical notes say it may have been glandular fever.
She is not at all hypermobile. She is like the tin man! She has dystonia from her contracting muscles. She has had to be so brave to keep using her feet because they want to turn inwards and upwards which is very painful.
We're pretty sure it is just CPS and her kidney problem. And of course PTSD now.
She's had a lot of investigations and other things have been ruled out.
I'm so relieved that you know what I'm on about!
Thank you so much. It means the world to me to have some direction.
All the best,