I have had no pattern of contact with my beautiful girls .
The only time I have seen them is when it has suited my wife , be it at a weekend on a Saturday or a Sunday and only when she has been there . I have not seen them on my own and within the last 16 months I have only seen them approximately 10 times .
The times I have spent with them has always only ever been short and on their terms , i.e. at a cinema to watch a film or at a pub/restaurant meal on my birthday/fathers day and Christmas . The times I have spent with them has always been very special to me . I love them both very much and I have told them that if ever they wanted to speak to me or see me then they only had to ask their mother and we would sort it .
I have told my wife this arrangement and to this date whenever I have asked her , she has told me that the reason she hasn't contacted me about this is because they haven't asked her to call me . This hurts me immensely and she knows that only to well . Her response to this has become " There's no point in getting worked up about it . Just take it as it comes " .
I am now very lost in all this mess and don't know how I can resolve it . I don't want my beautiful girls to think I don't love them or want anything to do with them anymore .
Thank you very much help and advice in giving me a direction to head down a path to try to save my relationship with my beautiful girls . I hope all will work out well to bring a satisfactory end to this family dispute .
Much appreciated .
Kind Regards ,