"What makes you think that this is what your daughter will actually say?" When I had "difficult times" and had quiet conversations with my daughter hinting that there might be a time that the life in the house will not be tolerable anymore and might have to leave, I did not get a response from her which would reassure me that she will follow me. Her farther, my husband, spends a lot of time, involving her in the activities, where she becomes separated from me - football games, football coaching, watching football, cricket playing and training. All of these brings them close together and leaves very little room for me to participate. She is now closer to my husband that she is to me. I also suspect that he is "brainwashing" her into forming an opinion that she needs to stay with him in the event of divorce/separation. When me and him are having arguments, he keeps on telling me that the daughter wants to stay with him and does not want to come with me. As he is a manipulative person and is shouting me down, so that I do not have a fair chance for discussion of this or any other issue, I am not sure, how much of my suspicions in regards ***** ***** daughter is true, and how much of this information has been created in my mind by my husbands actions.
"How much is the house worth and how much is outstanding on the mortgage?" At the moment I can provide you with approximate information. My husband holds all the paperwork on the house and does not make it accessible for me. The value of the house is around £500 000. When we moved in 4 years ago, around £100 000 was the deposit from the previous house. At the time of the moving in my husband coerced me into singing a declaration of trust, where only 40% of the house belong to me and 60% to him (his initial demand was 20% to me and 80% to him). He then inherited around £200 000 form his father and he intends to pay them towards the house. The next problem I will have to deal with in the nearest future is his demands to sign another declaration of trust where my share of the house will decrease further. We have been in marriage for 13 years.
"What other assets are there and how much do you each earn?" We have two ordinary Renault cars (nothing fancy) and I have around £35 000 on my bank account, which is what my mother handed to me over the years so that I have some money in case of great need. None of these money was earned by me, they were simply passed over to me by my mother. I am a teacher and earn in a region of £36 000 a year and my husband is an accountant with the income of approx. £50 000 a year.
The cost of two bedroom property in my area varies within £200 000 to £250 000.
Thank you very much for your help. The information your provide me with is very useful.