When he's at his worst he's unrecognisable and loses sight of all sense and reason. He disappears for months on end and spends a huge amount of money, mainly on cigarettes, alcohol and accomodation in hotels. Thousands of pounds of our savings have already been wasted in this way. The last time he was 'away with the fairies' he told me I'd have to sell the house and meant it - he had a fantasy about travelling abroad indefinitely, so he wanted half of the equity to do that. Later, he was in such a state he was picked up by social services - I was then told again I'd have to sell the house so he could pay for accomodation, as he wasn't eligible for any benefits. Following a detox, he then wanted to come back here, as usual, because he actually wants to live normally here, with his family, in the longer term - its the addiction that's causing the problem.
When sober he knows it would be crazy to spend money needlessly selling this house and buying other property and madness to allow him access to funds from the equity tied up here - he'd squander it or give it all away to hangers-on. He knows the sensible thing to do is for me to keep it protected for us (and later for our adult children). He'll tell a solicitor this himself (without me being present) as he isn't under duress.
Worth around £450k and the mortgage is about £70k.
Married for 33 years. Two adult children, one a student who lives here outside term time.