Me and my boyfriend have decided to finally break up after have been struggling in the relationship for nearly three years now.
He committed adultery with me and he admitted that in court. Now as we broke up he threatened me that he is going to name me as a co-respondent so I would pay half of the cost of procedure. Our relationship broke up on the ground of his unfaithfulness as I caught him on with a prostitute on 10th December 2014. This is not the only occasion he betrayed me and cheated on me, but I can't prove the rest (I have copy of text messages with the prostitute, the price and afterwards that he thanked her several times what a great service she provided).
He is full of anger and hatred as it was his second marriage and he blames it on me although the first marriage broke up because of his adultery in the first place. He admitted to me in the beginning of our relationship that he visited several prostitutes during his second marriage too and he had several affairs with his clients and/or friends. So he has a long history of being unfaithful.
What do I need to do if I receive divorce documents stating that I have to admit adultery? He was still living with his wife when we first met and first had sex, and he only left his wife because the wife found out that he had an affair.
Since then I am the one who went through physical abuse, mental and psychological abuse, and also verbal abuse. He broke my trust several times which I can prove with copies of text messages where he groomed other women behind my back and lied to me up until I showed my evidence. Constant belittling from his side is an everyday process.
I read articles saying that even though he admitted adultery, I don't have to admit it. But does it affect if I have to pay the legal costs, if so how much would it cost?
What would the consequences be if I don't admit adultery?