We are married since December 2010 when we register our marriage at the Council and after we transferred to another law. I have the original certificate from UK.
We have bought some electronics when we had our money together. I am banned to use them. One year ago my husband forced me to transfer £8000 from my account to his bank account. He came at my job and asked me to transfer the money. The bank clerk saw that is something odd and asked me if I want to cancel the transaction> I said no as I was afraid of him. He tried to enter into my bank account but I have changed the password.
After this incident we were separated with money but for one year I have paid the rent only from my income. Since January 2015 we are living in separate rooms in a shared house paying the rent individually.
My income is 25000 per year. I do not know his income as I had no visibility on it. Anyway from previous years I know that he has less than 25000.
We do not have children/pets/other assets.
My husband started the divorce 2 yrs ago. I want to divorce now after all this struggle. I have received only one 'paper' from his solicitor but is not a final divorce document. I will book a solicitor from UK to be a witness at what my husband have done to me few days ago: throwing me from 'his' room.
Electronics: a Sony camera around 400GBP a tablet around 350GBP a printer around 80GBP a radiator around 50GBP was sent to his house abroad a data storage/back up around 40GBP. Approximately 1000 GBP.
I was banned to use them for more than one year because of his obsessions. All these were bought when our incomes were spent by both of us/before financial separation.
All the described items are in my husband's room apart from radiator that was sent abroad.
As I mentioned he forced me to transfer £8000 from my account to his account. The bank asked me to cancel this transaction but I refused. After this we were separated from financial point of view.
I have received a letter form the Court saying that a final sentence will be given and the matrimonial status is cancelled. It is not a final decision of the Court and I have done nothing about the divorce. The date of this letter is around Sept 2014.
I don t think is Decree Nisi....the document is saying that the Court will give a sentence in our case that means they will certify the divorce even I have done nothing. In continental law I think it is possible that a divorce can be given without one partner's consent.
As time as I am not doing anything they will give the sentence. I will hire a solicitor to help me with this as I don t know too much.
All I want to do Claire is to get out that woman from our room/my husband's room and not me to be force to leave the house. He is making my life imposible with purpose or not.
I want to go to police to report the case ...do you think is in my help to involve police?
I am in a very poor health because of what happened, I do not have enough energy to move into a new accommodation right now, in the next 3 month yes but not right now.
I have already paid the rent for one month and half. I am seriously thinking to move away.
First of all as I said some electronics are at him. We have our own room but am I entitle to live there?If so why is living another woman there?
It is not 'normal' to throw my things from a property that is mine I suppose and to pick a woman and bring it in the same house with the wife.
Not lastly he is not in a good mental health and something must be done in my opinion. I am living with him for almost 7 yrs and I can t leave the things like that. His GP is only talking with me but no action can be taken without his consent.
Please let me know what is happen if I am going to police and report this to them. What are the consequences for my side.
This is the only question I have to you after all these details.
Thank you for your answer.
I am sorry to find in your response a summary of my case.
Maybe I was not very clear in presenting my case but first of all I must tell you again that
1. I suspect my husband of having mental issues.
2. He was violent with me and I have a record from my GP. Also an invoice from a hotel where I stayed for one night.
3. I will have in a short time a certified document from a witness regarding his violence
4.He forced me to transfer money and tried to steal my card
5. He has a distorted reality with heavy obsessions (reported to his GP by letter) and is smart enough to convince people around us that I am the bad person
6.He made inappropriate expenses and he is in danger of remaining without any income
7.He opened the divorce but lived with me 2 years after
8. Now is trying to remove me from the shared house I live.
9.His GP told me to report this to police when I reported his behavior.
My questions for you are
1. how can I report his mental illness/bad behavior to an authority and how can I be protected by an authority or law.
2.What is the procedure when a person refuses to cooperate regarding his mental health?
3. Other family members can support me with a declaration?
As I told before I do not want to leave the house until I am not find something suitable for me. I have lost a lot of money and I don t want to loose more. Moreover I believe he needs a proper help.