I pay by mutual agreement directly into the mothers bank account and not through CSA or court order.
I had suspicions a few years ago but when the maternal grandmother mentioned recently how much the child did not look like me or resemble me or my family in any way at all I decided to do the DNA test.
All the children in my family have similar characteristics and you can tell they are related.
I have not stopped paying for the elder child as yet. the mother does not know that I know the child is not mine at the moment.
I cannot prove that the mother knew that the child was not mine. but obviously she knew that there was a chance that I could not of been the father but decided that I was the best option for maintenance payments.
we had split up and went our separate ways then she contacted me and told me she was pregnant with my child, therefore I felt obliged to do the right thing and make a go of our relationship for the childs sake.
I have both children every fortnight staying for 2 nights how would this change the CSA payments ?
also the overpayments that I have made how far would this get me in advance of the payments for the youngest ? how long would the overpayments cover me for until the youngest is at what age ?
thank you for your help. so basically all I can do is stop paying for the child that is not biologically mine. I still have to pay the mother money for the child that is mine and there is nothing I can do about the money the mother has had from me fraudulently ?
this seems very unfair on men which are tricked by women who obviously know what they are doing.
if the mother admits she knew there was a chance the child was not mine but decided to lie is there anything I can do then?