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Clare, Family Solicitor
Category: Family Law
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Experience:  I have been a solicitor in High Street Practise since 1985 and have specialised in Family Law for the last 10 years
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How can I arranged shared care with my nearly ex husband?

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How can I arranged shared care with my nearly ex husband?
Submitted: 2 years ago.
Category: Family Law
Expert:  Clare replied 2 years ago.
Hi
Thank you for your question.
My name is ***** *****
I will do my best to help you but I need some further information first.
How old are the children and how do you see the arrangements working?
Clare
Customer: replied 2 years ago.

I have 2 boys 15 and nearly 13, I would like shared care, as my youngest son has educational needs, and I'm finding it very hard on my own.

at present he has 1 son on a Tuesday and 1 on a Thursday. And every other weekend bringing the children back at 7 pm on a Sunday.

I would like shared care as in we each have a week each

Expert:  Clare replied 2 years ago.
Hi
Will your ex agree to this?
Clare
Customer: replied 2 years ago.

I haven't asked him yet as I was seeing the legal side of things but I don't think he will, that's why I wanted to see where I stand before I start any thing

Expert:  Clare replied 2 years ago.
Hi
I am so sorry but your ex cannot be forced to have the children more often than he wishes to, and indeed it is entirely up to the 15 year old what time he spends with each of you.
Obviously you can ask him to help out more with the younger child - and the starting point is to discuss this with him using Family mediation
www.familymediationhelpline.co.uk
but apart from that your options are limited I am afraid
Please ask if you need further details
Clare
Customer: replied 2 years ago.

I don't understand how this is fair, he is their father. So I can't apply for shared care?

Expert:  Clare replied 2 years ago.
Hi
I agree that it is not fair - but sadly you cannot force him to have the children - applying for shared care will not achieve that I am afraid
Clare
Customer: replied 2 years ago.

Thank-you very much for your advice

Expert:  Clare replied 2 years ago.
Hi
You are welcome - I hope he does step up and take more responsibility to assist you
Clare
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