My wife and I share our marital home but are separated. There has never been anyone else, ever, our youngest is 19 and at Uni and only the two of us and her Mum (she's been here for 10 years) share our home, with difficulty, but as amicably as possible and it has been up for sale for 9 months.Once sold we would go our own way. I always said that, had I had an affair, then I would have moved out.We were aiming for 2 years separation as the basis of divorce (in October 2015) but I found out this week that she has been having an affair since November 2014.I feel as though I am being taken advantage of now and want to ask her to move out. Do I have the right to do that ??
close and refund please ..
sure .. thank you
house is £320,000
Joint of £25,000 + £15,000
Not sure where that takes us with 'do I have the right to ask her to move out .. ?I want to keep it amicable, BUT, I can't stay in my family home with her having a new partner now, out of the blue, further complication is her Mum, who I adore, who lives with us .... she needs a £25,000 payment from each of use - money she gave when we built her extension / self contained flat 11 years ago ... which we're both happy to do.
Morally, I want her to move out (not her Mum, happy for her to stay until we sell). I see no reason about from psychologically freeing myself from a terrible situation, that I should go when I have done nothing to deserve it and can hardly afford it on £15,000 without selling the house - her new man however has two houses ...
thank you for your honest answer ..... I presume I can now move forward with a quickie divorce then, for adultery ??
Despite her infidelity, I know she will brazen it out and stay in our family home, because her mum is hereSo, despite me not doing anything whatsoever apart from being a 'bad husband' after 30+ years together, and not being able to afford to move out of a home we cannot sell, I have to share a space with her.jeez ..
Is adultery an affair, or confirmed sexual activity ??
I know and have evidence of an affair of the mind, and an affair of the heart and I'm pretty sure that an affair of the body has also taken place with overnight stays at his home and the week they are currently on in Croatia ..... but no 'evidence'
Right .. which is why she has to agree to adultery ... I see
many thanks .. wish me luck !