In january 2013 I separated from my wife after I met another lady and who I wished to be my partner. I left the my family home to live elsewhere and the family home was sold and the proceeds divided 50/50.
I agreed verbally to give my wife £250 a month to help with day to day expenses etc. We did not do a separation form or a financial arrangement. My wife started an online divorce but this fell through because the company she was dealing with went bankrupt. It was then decided that I would start divorce proceedings after 2 years separation.
We had been separated for 2 years on january 18th this year so I asked if she would consent to the divorce she then started to say she wanted £450 a month and part of my personnal pension and when I get my state pension in february 2016 she wanted some of that.
My two sons are grow up and married. No financial agreement is in place and my wife was not keen on a consent order as she did not want her finances looked at. She is 64 and is receiving her state pension.
I would like to know if I am legally bound to continue paying the £250 per month and do I have to her demand of £450 per month
I should also say that at the time I had just taken voluntary severance from my job and I gave my wife monies in excess of 13k which was about 50% of my lump sum for severance.
Many thanks for your reply, I have one or two further questions please.
One of my wife's big worries is that her personal pension is not that big
so she wants more from me to give her more money. She seems to think she can just ask and I have to give it to her.
She had a good job when she returned to work after our boys were grown up which gave her a salary more than mine but she decided to give that up to start her own business. Whether that business made any money I do not know as she has always very quiet about her money. That business eventually was wound up During that time I supposed her as a husband does.
When the business folded she decided to do a PhD at coventry university and took an unpaid post there. Once again I supposed her as a husband does.
In both cases she did not contribute to a pension. If in the event of the divorce going to court would this count in my favour please.
Can you clarify also that although I give her £250 it is voluntary and not part of an agreement that it is called spousal maintenance. Can I say no now she is asking for £450 as there is no financial agreement.
Thank you for your reply.
As I say I have been separated for 2 years, if I wait until we have been separated five years I believe I can apply for a divorce without her consent?
Do I have to make a financial agreement then or leave it to her ?
many thanks Kas