Hello Clare, I did actually send another message to you after the first one to say that the family have all come together to tackle this and sort and the situation has calmed down but is very very fluid. My sister and I are doing a rota of evening care and there is an emergency NHS carer for the next 6 weeks first thing in the morning. My mother has now been given details of private carers to cover evenings but there is a shortage of carers so my sister and I will continue for now, but my mother is refusing to have a night carer which is the biggest issue, in her house. She is adamant and that is where the confrontations are. Dad needs a night time carer. As I've said before, there is very much an issue between dad making an effort with others but not with mum which makes are - understandably- angry with him although i think this too is changing rapidly as he is now very confused.
Please can I put this on hold - as per my email to you 5.6.15? I would prefer it if we can put pressure on mum to accept help in the house rather than dumping dad, and there is a tiny bit of progress on this.
Do i need to pay you for this so far, let me know please? Thank you again, it is good to know there is advice out there for the family, as it is extremely stressful and very very sad.