I made the petition and my husband returned the Acknowledgement of Service.
At that point he stated in the acknowledgement that I had stated I would pay for the divorce.
I actually stated I would pay only for the divorce if it was me divorcing him, on the grounds of his adultry, or desertion. He refused on these grounds and I was advised to divorce on 'iritrievable breakdown' - as this was not the case I stopped the proceedings.
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His solictors letter states the following
"The purpose of this letter is to enquire whether or not you are prepred to profress your divorce petition. If not, that is of corse your perrogative but as our client is keen to now progress the divorce, this situation will leave him with no option but to apply for the dismissal of your petition and to instead apply to divorce you using his grounds. Our client is hopeful that this application will not prove necessary, as such a step is a costly one, such substantial cost he may seek to pass onto you"
I want to make sure that he cannot pass this cost onto me.
My grounds for divorce were
'the said marriage has broken down irretrievably'
'Unreasonable behaviour, The respondent has behaved in such a way that the petitioner cannot reasonably be expected to live with respondent'
In the 'Acknowledgment of Service' he answered questions as follows:
4. Do you intend to defend the case? NO
6.Even if you do not intend to defend the case do you object to paying the costs of the proceedings? YES
If so, on what grounds?? MRS M P BOOTH VERBALLY
AGREED TO PAY FOR DIVORCE
As previously stated, I only agreed to pay for the divorce on the grounds of 'desertion' and/or' his audultary'
As the grounds of 'irretrivable breakdown' were giving him what he wanted, (at my expense) I decided to take no further action.
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My specific accusations - were his affair with his current partner and possible others - he denied that any affair occured and the relationship only began after he left the marriage. His only concern was that he was not seen a bad father (our only child was over 18)
I still refute this - although I do not consider, after this period of time, that any good will be had by going over the old ground.
I am just very concerned that his solicitors letter indicates that he thinks he can pass the cost of his decision to divorce onto me.
I have no issue with him divorcing me - I just do not want to held responsbile for any costs when this is now his decision.