Yes, there is a court order stating he is not permitted to take her on a sailing vessel until she is 11.
I do not think that a ferry is a sailing vessel though, and nor does he. The formal definition of a sailing vessel is a vessel propelled by sails.
I have said to him that I will not oppose him taking her on to a ferry. However, she appears distressed about it.
I did not oppose him taking her on a ferry because I thought the court would think this unreasonable. I presume that with professionals in charge of the ferry, she would be safer than if he took her onto his yacht which, in the past, he was dangerous on with adults and children. But I will do what I must to protect her. Can you suggest please what I say to Father?
I have tried to do this - but she has a real fear of the sea. I will do this (encourage her) but what do I do if she can not cope with the idea, despite my attempts, and continues to be genuinely distressed? She is asking me to tell him she does not want to go, so what do I do if she then becomes even more distressed? I do't want to let her down.