The child will be 12 in November, goes to senior school in Sept. If the child has school activities at this age and doesn't want to go to his dad's what trouble does the mother get into regarding the court order. I am the grandmother, the dad sees his son every fortnight weekend, won't allow any changes unless it suites him and uses his son as a tool.
But what is to stop her taking the dad to court to try to change the existing court order. The dad is a manipulative bully and doesn't pay maintenance.
Both parties have to comply to the order don't they? Just because he says he 'won' and pretty much got what he wanted he still has to abide by it just as much as she does. Would the threat of imprisonment work on him as well if he chops and changes dates regardless of her and his sons plans. If she wants to swop a date he threatens her with the court order, but if he wants to swop a date he seems to be able to control everything.