Thanks for your reply, your reassurance that I've understood correctly really helps. However, he refuses to go to mediation. We arrived at the maintenance agreement through a negotiated divorce settlement, I'd hoped all the arguments would stop once we'd got an agreement in black and white, rubber stamped by a judge. Disappointingly there have been a few arguments, for instance he's always refused to contribute to any school uniform and I've ended up just letting that go. But I can't start letting him expect me to pay for stuff at his house. Next it will be demands for money for toothpaste, shoes, outings and goodness knows what else. Should I go back to my solicitor who helped me negotiate the agreement? I'm loath to do that, as it's expensive ... it would just be cheaper to knuckle under and just buy the clothes!