we don't have a plan as such. He has been seeing him on a Wed eve and putting him to bed at my house and then staying on a Sat evening from 5pm until 6pm on Sunday. He now works 5 days a week so can only see him when I take him to his parents for tea on a Monday and Friday evening. I am no longer keen for him to see him on a weekend as he insists on hanging around my home and village.
I worry about his autism as it hasn't been diagnosed and therefore it is difficult to appreciate the extent of his problems. He definitely does not understand the concept of personal boundaries. He also puts himself first - i.e. he will have a shower rather than give his 2 year old son his breakfast. He also refused to take provisions with him (e.g. nappies clothes, wipes for his son). It all sounds a bit petty and silly but these things worry me. I dont think he would intensionally
sorry, pressed the wrong thing on my screen!
I dont think he would intentionally harm my son but I worry that inadvertently he would.
thats great. thanks
Thank you for your response. I think mediation is the way forward but the father is reluctant to pay for this.
His family acknowledge that he is not 'right' and they have a grandchild who has aspergers and they see similarities between them. Unfortunately no one appears to be able to get the father to acknowledge that there is an issue so we are at stalemate with this.
I agree that he should spend time at weekends with his father just not at or near my house. Especially as he lives 12 miles away. He refuses to see that I am entitled to my own space and that my son should ideally be staying with him in his own house (although he currently lives with his parents and they do not want my son to stay over - they say he is too young).
If the father applies for a parental responsibility order does that mean that his name will then appear on the birth certificate? Would I have the ability to challenge the appropriateness of PR being awarded? I want my son to see his father and have a relationship with him but I don't want his father to have rights over his life, schooling, residency, medical issues etc. At the end of the day my son was the result of a one-night stand. I would not have been able to have an abortion but even now the father hates me for putting him in this position. He didn't want him at all but now he feels he has all these rights. is this really the position?