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I have pasted below the next sections I have written out. Please can you comment or suggest any amendments. I have kept the last section on behaviour as brief as possible, if you think I need to cut more out please advise as to how.
Section 3 Financial Requirements Part 2 Capital needs. (page 21)
Capital needs for myself:
£ 3,000 Home improvements including: Dampproofing, Woodburning stove + installation, Air-conditioning unit, Oven & installation, Outside brickwork to close in terrace (making more habitable space). Garden.
£ 3,000 Shed or outside building for workshop or spare room.
£ 1,100 To register my car in Spain.
£ 5,800 Fusing kiln including delivery.
£ 2,000 Other equipment, benches fixtures and fittings.
£ 1,000 Website building and marketing budget.
Other information. Section 4.3 (page 23)
Before and during our marriage I contributed to our assets and outgoings by working first full time in our joint business and then part time both in our joint business and in my own business so that I could look after the children and our home.
My father contributed
£ 6,000 towards our first house,
£ 1,200 towards the last house we owned,
£15,000 at another point and we received many other smaller amounts over the years of which I have not kept records.
£75,000 Was paid to me on the 10th November 2004 for an investment. I kept it in my own bank account but was unable to invest the money as I had to support our family with it and from the income from my craft. I paid for all the domestic bills including rent and school fees.
£965.00 7th August 2007, for something for one of our children.
December 2008 my husband’s business had failed, we were behind on the rent and about to be evicted from our home. We separated. I had a £3,000 investment (in gold bullion) but no other money. I cashed the investment in and from then on supported and looked after our 17 year old daughter who was still at school until she left home in May 2010. In October 2009 our unemployed middle son also came to live with me and continued to do so for extensive periods of time until July 2015. I also supported our eldest son for a year whilst he was studying and had no home, income or transport.
Payments from my father to assist me and our children since March 2009 have been continuous and total to date approximately £40,000
March 2009 £ 4,000.
April 2009 to December 2009 £ 9,000 total (£1000 per month towards my rent).
December 2012 £ 5,000
January 19th 2015 £ 1,375 towards a Personal Training course for our son
March to Dec 2105 £10,275
Payments by my ex:
Between Nov 2010 and Aug 2011 £ 3,600 (approx)
I would like the court to take into account that this is the total that was paid by him towards the care of me and our children over the last 7 years and that although I attempted to earn a living from menial work (cleaning) and some small sales of my craft it was not enough to supply even our most basic needs: even with my father’s assistance.
Each of our children needed a great deal of help, care and guidance due the many difficulties they were having as a result of the troubles and traumas they had encountered during their childhoods.
Our eldest son was addicted to cocaine and our middle son, unemployed, was also taking drugs. Our daughter was deeply depressed and had suicidal thoughts. I helped and supported them.
I would like the court to take into consideration the behaviour of my ex-husband.
In 1992 my husband, who has a long term problem with alcohol, lost control of himself and the effect that alcohol has on him. His character changed and his behaviour became extremely volatile and unpredictable, he used emotional blackmail, coercion and aggression to control and get what he wanted. Amongst other things I was subjected to regular violent verbal and physical abuse and sustained bruising and other injuries and was threaten with a knife. I called the police to our house on three occasions but never formally reported him or made a complaint. I was very cautious about what I did and felt very restricted in what I could say and discuss with him. He also controlled all of our business finances and would not give me the wages from my work separately from his. When I started my own small business in the late 1990’s it made matters worse. My ex never took responsibility for his drinking, behaviour or the injuries he caused me.
In 2003 we sold up and moved to Spain. My ex had plans to grow his small business and open a shop but our joint capital had run out and he had no money of his own so I had to support the family on my income and my father’s money whilst he did this. He put pressure on me to lend to him saying he would repay it and every penny of my father’s money. He also privately borrowed other large sums from some of his clients. His venture failed and we were left destitute. When he left for the UK he said that he would find work and put things right by supporting me and the children and repaying me and I trusted that he would. He told me to not say a word to anyone about his business or his debts here.
Since then he has admitted to his drink problem and to having ‘behaved appallingly’ and has apologised in writing but he has not supported me or repaid anything. After he met and moved in with his girlfriend he said he didn’t owe me anything. I became angry and wrote many letters to him, then he cut off all communications.
When he filed for divorce I had no money to live on or for a lawyer. After the Decree Absolute was granted I said if he didn’t settle up with me I would contact his other creditors. He then reported me to the police for harassment. His creditors, who had failed to find him or get a response from him then wrote to his employers. When they questioned him he told his employers I had written the letter and he showed them his complaint to the police.
Since then my ex’s lawyers have accused me of blackmail, harassment and libel and said they advised him to get an injunction against me and told me they would call report me to the police if I say anything about him or contact him ever again.
My husband's behaviour has caused me a great deal of distress and has also had a severely detrimental affect on our children.
There has been no answer to this yet so I have cut down and edited the paragraph about behaviour which now reads:
I would like the court to take into consideration the behaviour of my ex-husband.
He has a long term problem with alcohol. In 1992 he lost control of himself and the effect that alcohol has on him. He became extremely volatile and unpredictable, was aggressive and controlling, used emotional blackmail and coercion. I was subjected to violent verbal and physical abuse and sustained injuries and was threaten with a knife. I called the police but never formally reported him or made a complaint. He had control of our business and personal finances.
In Spain my ex wanted to grow his business. I had to support the family and lend to him, he swore to repay everything including my father’s money. He also borrowed large sums from his clients. His venture failed leaving us with nothing. He returned to the UK saying he would repay me and support me and the children and told me to not tell anyone about his business or debts here.
He has not supported or repaid me. After he moved in with his girlfriend he claimed he didn’t owe me anything. I wrote many letters to him, then he cut off communications and filed for divorce. After the Decree Absolute I said I would contact his other creditors if he didn't settle up with me. He then reported me to the police for harassment. His creditors then wrote to his employers. He told them I had written the letter and showed them his complaint to the police.
My ex’s lawyers have accused me of blackmail, harassment and libel and advised him to apply to Court for an injunction against me and warned me not to say anything about him or contact him again or they would report me to the police.
My husband's behaviour and his lawyer’s have had a detrimental affect on the children and caused me a great deal of distress.