If matters are not amicable you will still have to disclose all your assets and financial position, and all these need to be considered when reaching an agreement or a court making a decision - not doing so can lead to any orders made being reviewed after they are made.
Therefore the best thing to do is try to reach an amicable agreement where both your needs, ex-spouse's needs and children's needs are all met.
Honestly, I also read the FT. I know you cannot expect to hide assets, although certain assets are considered common and others are not (ie pension plans?)
I was looking for advice on things like bank accounts, names on properties and mortgages, etc. I thought that if you are a family lawyer then you must find in meeting with clients that there are a few key steps which most divorcing wives - especially those with no fixed employment income but all responsibility for household costs- should take to keep from being in a vulnerable position.
Perhaps my question is too open ended (do you actually practice family law and advise people in these situations?
Ok, that is much more helpful.
(The reason I am not clicking on "get extra help" is that I thought I had a subscription for unlimited questions, and this new feature is therefore confusing. If you have a lot more important and useful advice I will purchase it.)
Thanks in any event for taking my questions over the holidays.
I have just a couple more comments:
1. How about property purchased after the marriage with a pension plan I earned before the marriage?
2. Does the Court consider redress in the form of asset allocation for a wife who was a high earner through part of the marriage but legitimately had to take care of all of the educational needs and upbringing of 3 kids, each with learning issues (one adopted), and could therefore no longer work full time, and in doing so gave up 10 years of promotions, peak earnings and pension contributions? Especially as it can be documented that the husband refused to assist at all in this regard?