Thank you for your question and for asking for me.
Who will the chidlren live with?
How much is the house worth and how much is outstanding on the mortgage?
What other assets are there and what income do you each have?
Do you not wish to remain in the Matrimonial Home?
Best guess on the mortgage outstanding?
Where is his first wife - and it is not what he wants - do YOU want to remain in the property?
How much will a cheaper two bedroom property in the same school area cost to buy?
Do you know how much you could raise on a mortgage?
Are there any other assets - including pensions
The starting point for the division of ALL the assets is 50/50 - but the housing needs of the chidlren until they are 18 are the priority and on that basis you can ask for as much as it will cost you to purchase a two bedroom property in the area - allowing for however much you can raise on a mortgage
You have a claim on half of the total savings - and you may also have a claim on his pension if it is larger than yours
You may also have a claim for spouse maintenance.
You should try and discuss this with your ex using Family mediation
I hope that this is of assistance - please ask if you need further details
You are entitled to a great deal more than that - don't let him bully you out of it!
You are free to move out if you wish - but you may find it harder to force an early settlement once you leave
I am sure you are right
It is far from certain that he will have to give his ex wife half - if there was a financial agreement then he will not necessarily need to do so - please please stop letting him bully you.
Tell him that in that case you will ask the Court to allow you to remain in the house without hm until the youngest is 18 and take your share then.
Tell him you will not settle for less than £35,000 (still a little low but worth it to be rid of him)
You need to make it clear that if he is not able to agree a figure then you will look to remain in the house - without him - until your youngest is 18 and then have the house sold
Your starting point is to issue divorce proceedings based on his Unreasonable Behaviour.
Once they are underway then you should attend a Mediation Information and Assessment meeting to begin the applictaion for the finances to be dealt with
You are fully entitled to deal with the forms yourself - most do!
Wait to receive the petition and deal with it - and arrange the Mediation appointment as soon as possible