Thank you for your question
Do you want n]me to deal with it here or on your other thread?
Please tell me
How long you and your ex lived together in total and how long you have been paying into your pension.
How much was the equity in th ematrimonial home at the time of separation
Remind me what the financial position of each of you is now
How long did you live together prior to your marriage.
Have you only ever had the one pension?
So you have paid into the pension for 26 years and you were married for 11 of them
That gives her a potential claim on half of 11/26ths of your pension - technically just over 21%
However that relates to the amount of pension that accrued whilst you were married - which is considerably less than the pension pot that you have now.
In addition the delay means that none of the financial information relating to the former matrimonial home is available and it is impossible to assess whether or not the £10,000 that she gave you was the appropriate amount.
On top of this is the simple fact that the Court can only grant a Pension Sharing order where a Financial applictaion has been made prior to the Decree Absolute unless the Court exercises it's discretion which will only happen in the rarest of cases.
That is why I believe that the real risk is that you will be ordered to pay her a lump sum
Very hard to assess without much more detail regarding the matrimonial home and what your pension was at the time of the Decree Absolute
I would however say that your offer is certainly reasonable
Sadly we cannot have any contact outside of this Forum - but I will be very happy to help you deal with the process yourself