Thank you for your question
My name is Clare
I shall do my best to help you but I need some further information first
What do you wish to know?
How old is the other child and how has the care of the children actually been shared between you?
How does your daughter feel about the contact?
What does she say to you?
Will your son agree to go for short periods of time?
Just to check - what is the exact nature of the application that your ex has made?
Please do not worry about his allegations.
It is clear that there is ample evidence that you acted in a reasonable way.
You should now prepare a C2 to seek a variation in the existing to Order to state that the children live with you and that your daughter spends time with her father.
I suggest that you ask for the change for your daughter so that she sends more balanced time with her brother - but do not be disappointed if there is no change at this stage.
If possible get a letter from the school confirming the facts about what happened.
They may be reluctant so emphasise that all you are asking for is an account of what happened.
From what you have said it is likely that a CAFCASS report will be ordered
Stay clam and do write out now an account of what happened - our memory can trick us sometime!
I hope that this is of assistance - please ask if you need further details
You should prepare a C2
Which will become your application for a new Child Arrangement Order changing the time the children spend with your ex
I am aware that his applictaion is proceeding - you are entitled to make YOUR application within them - that is what a C2 is for.
In reality you do not need to make the application.
The intervention of CAFCASS is not "part of his case" the matter is now before the court and CAFCASS will advice the court as to the position of the children and will make a recommendation that is about what is best for the children - which may well be living with you.
At this stage your son does not need a solicitor - if either CAFCASS of the court feel that it would assist then they will say so.
Unless you were specifically warned at Court that your son MUST go - your son can simply not go back to dad's if he does not wish to do so
If your son does not wish to go then do not make him.
He is of an age where his wishes are important.
It is hard for me to assess why the barrister thought you should appeal - you should ask them on what grounds.
From my position what I see is that no thing has been ordered that addresses the fact that your son does not wish to go
I would have expected that an urgent request for CAFCASS to speak to your son to establish his wishes