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I am a Solicitor and will assist you.
I specialise in family law so I can assist in respect of arrangements for the children but I am not a benefits specialist.
Please may I ask:
- what is the current arrangement for the children to spend time with both of you?
- are there any child protection concerns in respect of the father spending time with the children?
Thank you for your response.
It is the position of the courts that children are entitled to a good meaningful relationship with both of their parents as long as there are no child protection reasons as to why this should not happen.
If it is possible for both parents to share the care of the children - then the courts will make such an order if it is is in the childrens best interests.
That being said - the children will benefit from a routine and the father should not be changing his nights with the children on a whim. The routine should be set as far as possible so that you can both live your own lives, work, and the children know when they are going to spend time with both parents. You need to hold your ground if the father has no genuine reason for seeking to change his days regularly.
My understanding in respect of benefits is limited. I am aware that the father can seek to contest the claim for child for benefit. I am also aware that separate claims can be made for tax credits.
Let me know if I can assist you further.
You have to be aware that the father can apply to court if he disagrees with the change of schools. The court would deal with this as a specific issue and they would decide if the change of schools should happen based on what is best for the children.