Thanks for your further question. Given the appointment is on Tuesday I would suggest you do not formally respond yourself and await for your local solicitors to advise and prepare a response for you.
In relation to what her solicitors are stating - they are not asking for 4 days notice when visiting the home, only for you to inform her so that her and the children are not at the property. The 4 days notice is in relation to their proposals regarding the child arrangements and they are seeking 4 days notice prior to contact taking place. Given she is agreeing to allow overnight and community contact, it would indicate she has no child protection concerns and as previously informed you should be entitled to spend your time with the children where and however you wish without her being involved. I would suggest you speak further to your local solicitors about this as it may be seen as controlling by her.
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