Thank you for your question
My name is Clare
I shall do my best to help you but I need some further information first
Where are the handovers going to take place?
How old is your child?
So she can stay in her pushchair for handover?
I am afraid that you cannot get an Order against your ex's mother.
However if she does create a scene you can and must call the police.
In terms of dealing with the actual handovers - ignore her.
She can stare and make comments as much as she likes - you are there for your child and nothing else.
Do not respond to her - do not give her the satisfaction of knowing that she is getting to you.
Where possible take the child in the pushchair and get through the gate as soon as possible - go early and pay first!
If they come in the first time grit your teeth and endure it - but on Monday email her solicitor pointing out that it is not acceptable for them to stay in sight of the child.
If grandma behaves badly leave it to other to deal with - that way you can get an Harassment warning given her by the police - by far the best option for you
I hope that this is of assistance - please ask if you need further details