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What do you need to know?
What happened at the meeting?
Yes that is fine
4a - you do not refer to the general Child Arrangements Order as it s not urgent - this page is about the urgent part.
You are asking for a hearing on 48 hours notice - so on Thursday.
You should say that she is aware that you intend to apply and that you will personally serve her that evening.
Lots of calm here
If you get a specific issue order then I suggest that you arrange to collect the child a night early - then if she will not agree you can be back in court the next morning for an order allowing the police to accompany your partner and collect the child
Ask to collect at 12 noon on the Friday
Yes your partner needs to work out what he intends to say to the court
He needs to create a Chronology - a list of dates - when they met, when the child was born, when they parted when you started living together etc.
Taking the Birth Certificate is a good idea.
If you have ever been DBS checked then take that
Your partner needs to have notes as to what he is wishing to achieve and why
basically this sudden change in attitude appears to be based on her misunderstanding of her legal position and the fact that the child enjoys the time he spends with you
He shoudl point out that when the child is with him then it is up to him who he sees and spends time with provided he is safe
A proper chronology - a separate document with just the list of dates and events on - no details just basics
1. I have parental responsibility for the child and have been with my partner since xxx
we have had xxx regularly and have been planning this holiday since xxx
2. I got a text message on xxx saying my partner was lazy - i texted back - then got this strange accusation of "grooming" and was asked to sign an agreement
3. I want my holiday to take place and eventually to get an Order confirming the ongoing arrangements
Have four copies of the emails regarding the accusation (c and d) available and four copies of the agreement he was asked to sign.
Take the birth certificate - and a photo of the bedroom/office
lThis is NOT the place for comments about the mother's care of the child - and do not dwell on the accusation at al
Yes put the dates of disruptions in - but no referring to documents
I would have copies available to show to the Magistrates - so keep it as just a statement of events
None of those are relevant.
What is relevant is when they started living together and got married
When the child was born
when they separated
when you and he met/started living together
when you met the child
when she has stopped contact before
dates of any holidays you have taken with him in the past
Yes all six of those messages - do not bother with the one from yesterday
I am afraid that she is correct - and however hard it is for you you have to accept that.
You are actually giving his ex exactly what she wants - you are distressed and allowing it to take over your life
Do please stop.
His ex has made a stupid comment and used current paranoia to try and upset contact.
She no more thinks there is a real problem than she thinks the moon is made of cheese.
That is why it is important that the only thing that is concentrated on is restarting the ocntact and ensuring the holiday - do please stop letting her win
You are welcome - good luck
So pleased - so very pleased
Do not worry about the two hours it is not posisble to enforce it!
Enjoy the holiday first!
Your position is the correct one.
A short phone call while you are out - if he has a phone he should not use it to phone mum
Confiscate the phone and carry on reading bedtime stories just as usual do NOT let her change the life the child has with you.
No texts nothing until Sunday when he uses your partners phone to spend 5 minutes ont he phone - and the call is ended if she tries to quiz him on time spent with you
The CAFCASS contact is the normal usual process with any ordinary court applications and is about identifying the issues and checking there are no safeguarding issues involved.
It may be that the child will need some counselling - but it is still early days and being back in school may assist