Thank you for your question
My name is Clare
I shall do my best to help you but I need some further informtaion first
Is there a Court Order regarding Contact?
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The simple answer is that no you do not have to force your child to attend and his father has no right to have him in his care without your express agreement
If your ex applies to court for a Child Arrangement Order setting out the time the child spends with him then the wishes of your son will be an important part of what the court decides
I hope that this is of assistance - please ask if you need further details
He does not have to spend christmas with his father and the court will not force him to do so
In addition all you have to say is that if he is not happy then he must arrange for the matter to be discussed at Family mediation - using a mediator trained to work with children.
Then keep saying it whenever he kicks off
You have done exactly the right thing - even if houses it all it will show is that you are being adult and fait.
I suggest that you write and suggest mediation using a mediator trained to work with children to discuss new arrangements