Hi, thank you for your question. Since the CMS are involved the collect and pay option would have been provided to her as this would ensure that maintenance is paid each month and the CMS will deal with you to collect payment so she will not have to - this method is usually used for parents who cannot agree things between themselves, and unfortunately if she opts for this method then you will be obligated to comply, however she should be made aware that 4% of the maintenance she receives will go to the CMS as her fee.
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The only basis on which your ex can force you to use "collect and pay" is if there is a good reason for doing so.
This could be because of a past history of non payment - or because it would not be safe to let you have her bank details because of a past history of harassment
So provided you start to make the payments and do not miss any she cannot force you into this
Please ask if you need further details
I had one delay in payment (14 days) because I changed jobs and did not get paid until later in the month. Otherwise every payment is made on time. This is why I wanted to question it. Your advise is far superior than other experts as usual.
That once should not be enough given the reason