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I am a Solicitor and will assist you.
Please may I ask:
- what is your ex doing when he is coming to your house? is he threatening you?
- how old are your children?
- what is the current routine for your children seeing your ex?
- are there any concerns about him of a child protection nature?
Thank you for your response.
For an injunction - your ex has to be pursuing a course of action against you such as harassment. It doesnt sound like this is the current position from what you have described - but I do agree that it is not in your childrens best interests to be witnessing any arguments between you.
Perhaps you could ask a friend / family member to faciltate the handover. This should make things easier if you have someone who can assist.
If your ex does ever threaten you - then the first thing you would need to do is contact the police. They have the power to issue a harassment act warning or even bail conditions if they consider there has been an offence. If something like this does happen and the police dont take action to protect you - then you can apply for a non molestation order from a family court but you do have to contact the police first.
In respect of your children - I am sorry to say but no court order can make him a better father. Even if a court order did stipulate that he should have the children at parrticular times - there would be no sanction if he choose not to comply with such an order.
Children do thrive when they have the stability of a routine - knowing when they are going to spend time with both of their parents - so it is best to try and introduce a routine if you can. You shouldnt have to make the children available at his whim - so it might be worth considering saying such contact isnt suitable for the chidren and that you want a routine in place.
I would suggest that you refer to family mediation. Family mediation can help you disuss the childrens need for a routime and help try and put a plan in place. There are lots of family mediation services and there will be one local to you. If you google family mediation in your area and you can give them a call to self refer.
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