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If the mother has said your wife cannot collect the child then I am afraid you cannot overrule that.
She cannot dictate who takes the child to school.
However the same applies - you can tell the school that the only people you will authorise to collect the child is you or her mother.
I would suggest that you inform your ex that you will do this unless matters can be resolved t using Family mediation
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Your ex is simply being unreasonable - your other option is to go to court for a specific issue order to deal with the matter.
The Court will not criticise you as you are not breaching the Order if you cannot collect your daughter.