Hi, thank you for your question. Just a bit more information required to fully assist you:
-Is the divorce under unreasonable behaviour?
-Do you agree the marriage has irretrievably broken down?
-Whose name is ***** ***** in?
-How old are the children?
Thank you for confirming and apologies for the delay in responding.
In relation to the divorce you have a right to defend this and thereafter file a statement in response. It is likely the court will want to list this for a hearing for both of you to give evidence and for the judge to decide if the marriage has broken down - however you should be aware that in the majority of circumstances a divorce will be granted as if a petitioner has gone so far as issue divorce proceedings the relationship is likely to have broken down unless there can be a reconciliation between you. The court will have given you an acknowledgement of service and you should confirm you wish to defend the divorce and thereafter submit a answer to a divorce (https://formfinder.hmctsformfinder.justice.gov.uk/d008b-eng.pdf) within 21 days of receiving the petition - but you must seriously consider if you wish to pursue a defence as it will be stressful and time consuming when you can spend that energy on the potential children and financial matters.
In relation to the property as it is in joint names you have a right to continue living there despite her pursuing a divorce. You can only be excluded if there is a court order and she will not be able to sell it without your involvement or consent, or without a court order.
In relation to the children you may wish to consider applying for a child arrangement order to court using form C100 and a £215 court fee - this will formalise the arrangements for the children although it will require formal court proceedings if nothing can be agreed between you.
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