Thanks for confirming. Firstly, your son has a right to a relationship with you whether you pay child maintenance or not and the mother has no right to stop contact because you missed or cannot make payments. Child maintenance is based on your gross income and if you have no income you have no liability to pay, and she has no enforcement options unless there is a child maintenance service calculation.
In the circumstances I would suggest that you make a referral to an independent mediator (you can find local ones here: familymediationcouncil.org.uk). The mediator will assist you both in reaching an amicable agreement that is in the child's best interests. If mediation does not help, then you will be able to pursue an application to court under Form C100 together with a £215 court fee to your local family court for a child arrangement order and the court can make a decision regarding the matter. For your information the Court will take into consideration the following when making a decision regarding the application:
1. The wishes and feelings of the child concerned
2. The child’s physical, emotional and educational needs
3. The likely effect on the child if circumstances changed as a result of the courts decision
4. The child’s age, sex, backgrounds and any other characteristics which will be relevant to the court’s decision
5. Any harm the child has suffered or may be at risk of suffering
6. Capability of the child’s parents (or any other person the courts find relevant) at meeting the child’s needs
7. The powers available to the court in the given proceedings
You should be aware that when he turns 16 thr order will end and it will be for him to decide if he wants to continue seeing you.
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