Hi, thank your for your question. Just a bit more information required to fully assist you:
-What order is currently in place?
-What have social services or the police done regarding thr allegation?
Thanks for confirming. Legally, as there is a court order in place contact should be taking place and the mother should be making him available for contact unless there is a further order restricting you from seeing him. You should therefore contact the mother directly to seek that contact continues as per the order. If she does not comply you should consider applying to court for enforcement of the order using Form C79 and a £155 court fee to the child's local family court.
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I am afraid that at this point it would be unwise to try and enforce the Order.
The fact that your son has (for whatever reason) said that you have "hit him with a stick" means that you will have to be patient and allow Social Services to do their job.
You will need to pester them (they will take the approach that since the child is with mum there is no rush) so that Contact can resume as soon as possible after they have done a basic investigation.
However if you try and enforce then the Social Services involvement would become much more high level which could delay contact even further
Please remember children can be very literal - a "stick" means one thing to us - but a child may use it to cover anything from a twig to a baseball bat
Can you think of anything that this may refer to - a play fight with light sabres?
An accidental bop on the fingers when you were both playing the xylophone?
I know these are ridiculous but you need to think about the daft stuff as that may give you the answer.
The hardest thing to do with Social workers is to stay calm and not get cross (and I speak from experience - they wind me up automatically)
Listen hard - have someone with you who can passively listen - you have to think about answers as well!
You tell the truth - calmly and clearly.
You can say that you have thought about it in detail - but you have never hit him with a stick nor done anything that could have caused him to say that
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