Thank you for your question
My name is Clare
I shall do my best to help you but I need some further information first
How old is the child and what Court Order is currently in place?
Is there actually a Court Order setting out the Contact that the father should have?
Who mentioned the last two (the first two are unarguable!)
The banging on the door is not acceptable and is an excellent reason to suspend contact today.
However it is not for you to tell him what to do when the child is with him - be it an activity or homework - it is for his father to decide what they do together
Equally the issue of Diwali should have been addressed with the court - if he will not agree the change then you need to apply to the court for an urgent change to the system - you cannot simply change it because you wish to
Equally I am sorry - but a 7 year old does not dictate when he has contact anymore than he dictates whether he goes to the Dentist or to school
So if your ex had behaved properly then contact shoudl have gone ahead this weekend HOWEVER since instead he showed aggression which frightened you both it is reasonable for you to inform him that contact will be suspended this week to give everything a chance to calm down and will resume on the next scheduled date PROVIDED that there is no repeat of his behaviour
I hope that this is of assistance - please ask if you need further details
What happened the time before this one?