Thank you for your question
My name is Clare
I shall do my best to help you but I need some further information first
How old are the children and how long has she known the new boyfriend?
Are there any existing court orders?
Do you have a specific problem with this man's suitability?
Technically you can apply to the court for a Specific Issue Order to prevent him from collecting the child from school - but the fact that you yourself cannot take over the task could well be a problem - I am afriad the fact that your father could do it would not convince the court to take this step
Accordingly nnless you have some specific objection to this man (and you can make enquiries of the police using Sarah's Law - details here
then I am afraid it would be most unwise to make the application
Please ask if you need further details
Not at all - you are fully entitled to be concerned - and to discuss matters with your ex - and to find out from the police if you should be concerned.
All the law says is that a child is entitled to contact with both parents.
As Parents you need to agree how their time should be spent between you - using Family mediation is necessary.
An average pattern would be alternate full weekends plus one evening/night each week
But there is no such thing as "average" and you should discuss what works for the children
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That seems very little - what excuse does your ex give for limiting contact in this way?
Why can you not have then for a weekend?
Do you have somewhere suitable for them to stay overnight?
The law says that children are entitled to alcose relationship with both parents and the courts will enforce this of necessary.
Your ex does NOT have the right to simply dictate when you have the children - it is a matter to be decided between you - and you too are entitled to "quality time" with the children.
There is no reason why you should not aim for alternate weekends plus one evening/night in the week (assuming you can get them to and from school) plus up to half the school holidays.
The starting point is to arrange to see a Family mediator
If that fails then you can apply to the ocurt for a Child Arrangement Order using a form C100 and paying the fee of £215.
You are most welcome - good luck