Thank you for your response.
Please do accept my apologies for my delay in responding to you.
I am very sorry to hear what you are going through.
The point that social services are making is correct - you are under a duty to safeguard your children and if the father has been aggressive in front of the children and he also has issues with his mental health then you do have to safeguard your children from this.
I note that you are getting help in respect of a NMO and OO and I am glad to hear this.
I do think that it is important that you also discuss with your solicitors in respect of obtaining a Child Arrangements Order to confirm that the children live with you. The court can also consider at the same time the time that is safe for the father to spend with your children and whether that time needs to be supervised. The court will investigate the fathers mental health, possibly asking for a report from his GP. Before the first hearing a Court Children and Families Officer (Cafcass) will undertake checks with police and social services and inform the court of the recent incidents so that the court can take this into account.
As the father holds parental responsibility, you do need his permission to change schools. If the father wont agree then you can ask the court at the same time as applying for a CAO to decide the specific issue of your children's schooling.
You do normally have to attempt mediation before you go to court, but in your case, if your ex is charged or if you obtain a NMO you will not have too - so you can apply straight to court. If the issue of schooling needs resolving before the new school term then you can ask the court to list this urgently so that a decision can be made quickly.
I wouldnt allow any unsupervised contact until the court has considered your case. I say this because I do nto want you to be criticised by social services for not safeguarding your children.
Let me know if I can help you further
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