Thank you for your response.
In short - yes you are entitled to a share of his pension.
Your husband needs to disclose what his pension is.
The matrimonial finances is the assets for both of you. After a long marriage like yours the starting point for the division of all assets is equality. Given that you earn less you actually need to be seeking a larger share of everything around 10 - 20% more.
You can also seek spousal maintenance. There is no set rule but it usually around a 3rd.
The Child Maintenance Service have jurisdiction in relation to child maintenance. This can be payable up to 20 in they are in no advanced full time education. They have a calculator on their website but you do need to know your husbands income to get an idea of what he should be paying. If he wont tell you refer to the CMS and they will check his tax records.
You can include child maintenance in a separation agreement or a court order reather then referring to the CMS but this will ony last for one year then either of you can opt out of that provision and refer to the CMS.
If you are not happy with the agreement then you dont have to sign it. Whilst a separation agreement in itself is not technically legally binding on a family court Judge they can order in line with what was agreed in some circumstances.
I reccomend that you consider family mediation. They will help you through full disclosure of all assets and discussions about division. Google family mediation in your area and give them a call to self refer. If agreement can be reached at mediation then this should be prepared into a consent order and submitted to the court for approval in the divorce proceedings.
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