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I am so sorry to hear what you have been going through it sounds like you have been having a terrible time. You dod have options.
What you need to know is that even though social services can try and promote the relation between you and your youngest children, they cannot make the father allow them the spend time with you.
It appears as though the concerns you have about the father havent really been considered by social services, or the the extent that they are not concerned not to allow the youngest two children live with him.
On the otherside of the coin, it is very positive that social services are allowing your older children to live with you. I say this because it can work both ways - that being social services cannot say that you are safe to care for some of your children but not all.
If the father is still not willing to make any progress at the next meeting then you need to consider making an application to court for a Child Arrangements Order so that the court can decide with whom the children should have. The court can also investgate the concerns that you have about the fathers behaviour and if the children are safe with him.
First thing you need to do is to refer to mediation. You need to do this before you can apply to court unless the matter is urgent. There are lots of mediation services. Google family mediation in your area and give them a call to self refer.
Mediation will try and help you reach agreement without the need for court. If agreement cannot be reached at mediation or the father wont engage then the mediator will sign the form that you need to apply to court.
The court form is the C100 Form.
There is a court fee of £215 payable when you send your application to court although you may well qualify for a waiver or reduction of this form given then you have children and dependant upon your means.
The court will fully investigate the concerns that you have. The courts will want to promote a relationship between you and the children and also the siblings. If the court shares your concerns about the father then it can order that the youngest children live with you.
You can try and get legal aid but the first thing you need to do is get domestic violence evidence as this is required. As your case has not been referred to MARAC then go to your GP with this letter. Ask your GP to refer you to a domestic violence service.
Once the letter has been completed take it to your local family solicitor so they can undertake a free legal aid assessment for you.
If you qualify on means (your income and capital) then the solicitor will be able to write to the father, refer to mediation and also make your application and represent you at court.
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