His name isXXXXX and 5 years ago he was facing loosing everything and his brother Russ (also my friend) sadly died. I took out a loan over 5 years to help him get back on his feet. over the five years he never defaulted on any payments. In January this year the final loan payment was made. I had previously spoken with him saying that the loan would be paid in full in January and he agreed to contact his bank and have the payments (standing order from his account into mine) stopped. he assured me that he had done it. Two more payments followed and again he assured me that he had stopped the payments, I gave him the cash that he had put into my account. When I last spoke to him about the money going into my account he seemed angry with me for saying that I did not want the money putting into my account. He tried using emotive words etc but despite making me feel very uncomfortable I stood my ground. Anyway I have just checked my account and he has paid in another £160.00! I contacted my bank Stander and there is nothing they can do unless they put a block on my account which will effect all my banking etc. What he wants me to do is pay him £160.00 per month in cash and say nothing (that's what a real friend would do if they cared about a person - what he last said to me). Paula
What can I say to him so he really gets the message? I recently became aware that he is in a lot of debt and that he is avoiding debt collectors etc.