Contact in your ex's house is completelyunsatisfactory unless you agree which obviously you don't, but are being forcedto put up with.
At two years of age, there is no reason whyyou should not be having more contact then this, and there is no reason why youshould have to wait until the child is 7 years old for overnight staying contact.
It would also not be unreasonable for you tohave your daughter every other Christmas even if it is not for the whole period.
Youshould try to resolve matters using family mediation http://www.familymediationhelpline.co.uk/find-service.php
Althoughit is quicker and less confrontational than court it isnt necessarily cheaper
If this fails then you can apply to the court for adefined contact order which will formalise arrangements.The necessary forms are available on the herehttp://www.thecustodyminefield.com/
It would actually be a good idea if she saw solicitor because it could savea whole load of arguing.
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