We have lived together for 6 and half years, my ex earns 38,000 pounds per year, I have no income.
It has only just started, she is having the initial papers sent to a friends address in the uk, I dont know exactly what they are but she told me once it is sent here (spain) I will have to sign, thats all I know. It has been a terrible time for me as I have been left in spain on my own having only moved here 6 months ago, I have one english speaking friend downstairs but he has managed to get me an appointment with an english speaking lawyer here, so I can discuss things such as the divorce settlement as we own a joint property here in spain.
yes, I have asked her today to please give me a part payment of what the final divorce settlement will be (???) so I and the cat can get back to the uk, find somewhere to live, furniture and money to live on until I can get part-time work as I also have a serious chronic illness ( SLE-Lupus).
I have been here for over 2 and half months now on my own and I need to just go back where I have my friends and support. Thanks
2 bedroom flat, furniture, a car and a motorbike
The flat is in both names, it is yet to be evaluated, it is certainly because of the recession not worth anywhere near what we paid for it, of course all the furniture is jointly owned, however I do not have a license so the car and motorbike are in her name but they are marital property as we have both paid for them and the upkeep etc
No savings anymore, no I dont receive benefits, I will most likely need to apply in the uk when I return, I should apply for maintenance support?
Thanks but I dont know when I will be able to get back to the UK, I presume if she has just started the proceedings it will take 6-8 weeks?? Can I apply for it in Gibralter, is it the same as the UK as is it a UK territory?
My main question was, how do I go about applying for it?
What happens if I cant apply in Gibralter and I dont get back to the UK until the divorce is already finalised? If the divorce is finalised can I still apply, how can I apply if I am here and I need to go to a uk court to apply for an order? I hope you can see what I am trying to ask and can you please put it non legal terms as much as possible. Thank you
Thank you, however I do not have any money only the little money she is giving me to live on each month, so therefore will she have to pay for the fee as I cant and I am completely dependant on her athe moment for financial support? Could you please tell me exactly what you mean by " once they have been issued" Do you mean the dissolution papers?
Thanks, however I did not mean that she apply but that as I am completely dependant on her financially would she not have to give me the 240 pounds so I can then apply?
Sorry I dont know what you mean by issuing the application. My ex is filing for the dissolution as I have no money to do it anyway. Do you mean that I cant apply for it until she has filed as I believe she is going to do so this week and if so how long until I can ask her for the money and apply for the maintenance order?
She is giving me a minimal budget each month to live on for example 150.00 euros per month for spending and 30 per week for food. What she is doing is horrible considering I left everything in the UK to come and support her with her new job/career progression.
I am waiting to see a spanish lawyer/legal aid but I dont know how much he can help me since it is being issued in the UK but we do own the spainish property. I have been alone now for nearly 3 months, no family only a sister in australia and one freind here that speaks english. I am just trying my best to get advice as to how to do all of this. I also dont know how it will work with the order for division of assets as we live in spain but she is filing in the UK. I know our property here therefore wont form part of the dissolution/division of the property so i am feeling vulnerable regarding that? If you can help me I would be really appreciative, thanks
sorry claire, I think we are getting our wires crossed here. She is filing for the dissolution in the UK, she is having the papers sent to a friends in the UK. We are not getting divorced in spain as here they call it marraige and in the UK, civil partnership so it will be very lengthy and will cost about 8,000 euros. Please I am getting very frustrated here, I just want to know what you mean by issued exactly and how will I know when I can apply for the maintenance order.
The last bit is not clear either, what do you mean, that our spanish property can be dealth with by the UK system?
So if I do not agree and sign any papers from the UK as in the petition can she still go ahead with the dissolution, I have been told that as neither of us are currently living in the UK, what she is doing is misleading/illegal? So what do I do then, do I say to her that I want the divorce dealth with in spain can I do that? She told me it could take up to a year, I am so confused as to what to do??
Can I not make the maitenance order to the uk online, if I have to appear in court in the UK for the order, when can I expect that to take place, if she has made the petiton this week and will she have to appear at the court as well?
No I won't rely on any information she tells me, that is for sure as of course, she will only have her own interests in mind.
I gather the financial issues should be discussed and agreed upon through solicitors, if we can not agree ourselves?
I am waiting still to see this spanish lawyer so ican have things clear in my mind.
Thank you for all your help.