The children are 9 and 5. The last order was in November 2012. Mother continues to put obstacles in the way of contact. Latest ruse has been to encourage the eldest child to say they do not wish to see father which is now being copied by youngest child.
There is a Nyas caseworker involved. She seems to be having no luch in getting contact going despite the Court Orders
The Nyas caseworker has seen the children quite a number of times. Nyas have been involved with the case for approx 4 years. An earlier caseworker left. My son won a case in the Court of Appeal whch ordered that there should be contact. I do not believe the mother is positively encouraging contact between the children and their father which seems to me to be in breech of the Court Order
Thank you. The difficulty I see in persuading the Court to take action is clearly demonstrating the mother is in breech of the order. She will claim she lets the children go to contact with the nyas caseworker and my sons sister and she is not against the children seeing their father. In rweality it appears she puts obstacles in the way all the time such as telling the children their father is mean and that he stole photos of them when they were little. The nyas caseworker seems to do little if nothing to try to find out why the children now have negative views towards their father and says the mother is not stopping contact. How do you see my son "proving that the mother is in breech"?
Also can you advise re what is needed to "win" the suspended residence order as per my original question. I cannot see at the moment the Court awarding custody to my son when the Nyas caseworker is saying the mother is a good mother and she does not oppose contact. The nyas caseworker seems to be sitting on the fence unwilling to do or say anything strong against the mother.
The children are now saying they do not wish to see their father. They are 9 and 5. The nyas caseworker does not seem able to manage this and find a way to encourage the children to be positive. My son is worried that if he just turns up without the children agreeing to see him this will cause the children particularly the eldest to react negatively and later tell the mother she was "forced" to do something. The mother will object anyway if the nyas caseworker does something with the children which is not agreed with them in advance.
Mother shall make girl/girl available for assessment work by the Nyas caseworker and any direct contact the caseworker may recommend takes place between the children and their father as follows
date date date date date date date
It being noted that any direct contact that takes place shall be supervised by the Nyas caseworker for assessment purposes
sister shall be present at the discretion of the Nyas caseworker
The court considering such assessment by the Nyas caseworker is essential given the complex and lengthy history of the case and is vital in order to assist the Court in making orders in the best interests of girl/girl
Contact has always been nigh on impossible because of the mothers transigence. The situation now is the girls see the caseworker and fathers sister. the eldest has said she doesnt want to see her father and now the youngest is copying her although originally she did want to see her father. Whilst the mother on the surface says she is supporting contact she seems to be being always negative about the father to the children and leading them to believe they dont have to go if they dont want to. Yes the caseworker will decide but she that is the caseworker has done litlle if anything to encourage the children
No not since the case at the Court of appeal other than small reports about contact attempts. The problems with contact caused by the mother are never bought out in the reports. There is another case due mid March and Im worried the caseworker will eith continue to sit on the fence or say in her report contact is impossible.
It all seems od when the Court of appeal/high court are ordering contact that no-one is actually making it happen or doing any real work to try to make it happen
Thank you for staying on the case and considering this.
He keeps asking for a plan but the caseworker is pretty useless
Thank you for your help and advice. I think your suggestion is very good and I will discuss this with my son. Thank you also for offering to help a bit further if needed. That is very kind. Warmest best wishes. Peter