Claire,Thanks for your prompt and courteous reply.I am afraid I feel you have not really quite sufficiently answered my question. I am grateful for confirmation that they are not time expired in anyway however, have they been "served"? Surely the fact that I have read them months later means defacto I have actually been "served", doesn't it? I can hardly lie; and who would reasonably expect me not to have read them in the intervening period? So when you say "If you do not [reply sic] then your ex will have to arrange personal service of the papers on you or show the court that she made sufficient effort to do so" is surely irrelevant? I sort of remain in limbo, I dont want to respond to these papers and would rather be served again but will she have to? I need to know whether what has transcribed would be sufficient to show the court that she has indeed "made every effort to do so" and so be in a position to make an order dispensing with the need to effect service?thank you once again, Doug
Surely if she has not "served" correctly and goes straight to court then it is me who has the claim that she has not followed the protocol and can claim costs?
One of my important thrusts is that I do not want divorce or the stigma of failure. The fact that after 40 years of marriage and a grandmother she seems unprepared to have realistic expectations for the rest of her life I don't understand. I think the legal period of two years separation is well founded; she has not even been on her own yet nor has a year passed. I am not emotionally ready to undertake significant changes that are going to affect my future and happiness at this moment. I still hope for reconciliation I strongly suspect I need another year and she may do too. I will contest, if she persists now. I am advocating we talk but she seems hell bent on confrontation and animosity. I did not want to get to this level of detail as it is somewhat superfluous. in essence I need and want more time to elapse.
Thank you I am going to rate your service excellent.
I will beg to ask a little more of you, even though I may not be entitled to it.
When I counter petition is it purely a paper exercise or a paper exercise supported with a personal hearing prior to the decree nisi?
P.S. Once again thank you; excellent service!
thank you and goodbye Claire