currently we have a house £1m - equity £600k. We bought the house a year ago - just before he left and I was left to manage the total renovation tho he paid jointly with me for the costs. He has never lived in this house which is 7 bedrooms and I have all the furnishings.
A car - worth about £8k
3 children - 12, 14 and 16 - youngest sees him every other weekend for at least one night stay over. The 16 year old has had no contact with him since June last year nd the 14 year old has not stayed over since June last year bar a 4 day holiday with him in Scotland
No other assets
4 bedroom in the same town would be £425k. In the town next door so the children have to get the bus to school £350k.
It's v difficult. He had an affair (brain damage), moved us from Oxfordshire to Sussex and then kicked off the affair again. I have been responsible for moving us from Oxon t rented house in Sussex and then again to bought house and the management (no the costs) of the total (massive) renovations of the bought house. I work, but am wholly responsbile for the children. Although he has paid the mortgage and cost of the car for the last year, I have had no mainentance and the house is so above my ability to pay - council tax alone is £2078 - even with a single person allowance. All birthday, Christmas, school lunch money, clothes, trips - the lot - as well as food, heating etc all falls to me. I've taken 5 days off work to get house in fit state to sell and to get valuations etc. I have done nothing wrong and yet am always on the fuzzy end of the lolly. Whinging to you helps me - tho clearly won't help you - sorry about that, bu it's just not fair!
Thank you loads